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The Universe Wants to Talk to You: Do You Want to Listen?

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(This is an excerpt from an article I just released in my e-newsletter. Want a copy? Get it here)

The ego has a thousand goals. Are they really yours?

The fast-track Western world reveres productivity, measured by what we “get done.” But I invite you to consider becoming undone, letting go of ill-fitting self-definitions, freeing yourself from beliefs and patterns, becoming naked, available, and present to your present life. The Universe wants to talk to you. Do you want to listen?

Sometimes you have to stop scoring points in the life you have in order to win at the life you desire.  A Course in Miracles teaches, that “the vision of one world will cost you the vision of another.” Albert Einstein said the same thing: “You cannot solve the problem at the level of the problem.” Are you so busy maintaining the structures of your existing life, that you can’t hear when Great Love is calling your name?

We don’t always realize what we’re not getting done by getting things done.

The other day, I decided to give myself a mini-retreat on my back porch. I’d hurt my neck so I thought maybe I should drop my tasks and spend the day listening to my body and myself. Immediately I heard a perky voice within dictating glamorous, acceptable ways to relax. Maybe you should go to a spa and get a hot stone massage. Hey, you could read that new book about scaling your business. Since you’re not on the computer today, why not organize your meditation space? Even in the domain of my time off, I had a checklist waiting to devour me. I spent the day in a ratty tee shirt instead, “doing nothing,” being, listening, and receiving. It was one of the most productive days I’ve had in a while.

I played with silence and it fed me.  I consciously slowed down. Escaping from a usual feisty business day, I remembered, again, there is more my soul needsto get done than any “to do” lists contain. I always hunger for real life, not the mass marketed “get real” life. I want to see the dawn caress the Taj Mahal and feel the spices, centuries, voices, and truth in the air. I want to smell the wild honeysuckles taking over the wooden fence, knowing I only have a bucket full of summers here on earth. I want to taste life, seize moments that will live inside me forever. I am a jewel thief greedy to collect rare and shiny moments.

In rebellious chunky penmanship, I wrote in my journal, “I am not going to answer emails today.” (I am a pathetic anarchist.) I want to know and love myself. This I won’t regret on my deathbed.  Because I may not know what I want to be remembered for, but I know it’s not this:  She always got back to people within 48 hours. And she had excellent punctuation.” 

That day, doing nothing, I ended up writing, soothing the cells in my body, forgiving myself for a hundred choices of forgetting, cradling a part of me who’d suffered disappointments, and falling in love with myself, the endless capacity of the mind and heart to heal itself, and the Universe who led me all day long to discover the ways I’d been led all of my life long.

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Forgiving Your Mother, Yourself, and Everyone: This is Your Lifetime to Get it Right

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(This is an excerpt from an article I just released in my e-newsletter. Want a copy? Get it here)

This Mother’s Day you have the chance to get it right. 

 

You have the chance to open up to the one of the most significant relationships of your life. (Or moms, same goes with your kids.) My mom left this planet back in 2011. One of the best things I ever did with my life was work on healing my relationship with her. The struggle to love and forgive is a worthy struggle. It’s heroic. And it will affect every other relationship in your life.  And guess what?  For me, it all came down to loving myself. Go figure. 

So this is a piece I wrote years ago, while visiting my mother in upstate New York. (I’ve edited it today.) I felt challenged at the time. I wanted to be the perfect daughter. But there’s something about dealing with our families that’s like taking acid. You go on a trip. Things come out of the blue. People grow extra heads. Then you come back and you think– what was that all about?

“Those who see themselves as whole make no demands,” teachesA Course in Miracles. Well, clearly, those who seem themselves as wild animals act accordingly.

Being with my mother, I can’t believe how quickly I am triggered. I am A Course in Miracles teacher, which if you don’t know is all about forgiveness and choosing love. But as I hide away upstairs in the cutesy, cluttered guest bedroom of my mother’s townhouse, I wonder if the material really only works for my students. Because at the moment I’m foaming at the mouth. That can’t be good.  

The truth is I’m tired. I’m weakened. I don’t have it in me to be conscious and centered. So I have to forgive myself. I am trying. I am daring. I am not saying cruel things, even when I caress the knives in my mind. I am trying. I am daring, I remind myself. I know my intentions are 90% pure.

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How to “Make It” in Your Life’s Work: Getting Everything by Giving It

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(This is an excerpt from an article I just released in my e-newsletter. Want a copy? Get it here)

Are you tired, yet, of the “beggar syndrome?” You know, that sense of looking into the window ofother people’s lives, wishing you could be as successful. 
 
I can’t tell you (and don’t want to!) how much I kept imagining everyone else knew how to grow the work they loved (and run away to Bali with the man they loved, while eating organically, shopping locally, healing the world globally, buying New York Timesbestselling author appropriate black dresses, and fill in the blank of your craving here.) 

My own success, has come, of course, through learning how to stand in my strength—a strength not given to us by the world. It’s the inspired power of love, and every one of us has it.
 
This month, I’m excerpting this passage from my book Inspired & Unstoppable: Wildly Succeeding in Your Life’s Work! (Tarcher/Penguin). Inspired & Unstoppable is all about how to use inspired means to achieve any of your dreams. 

The world is not holding you back. You are holding the world back. You are holding back your strength and your strength can make a difference at this time. You have a power in you that can move mountains, and, better yet, people. But you’re still allowing others to tell you what’s possible or right.
 
Maybe you’re still chasing kudos to glue some sequined wings onto your hobbled back. But no amount of approval will ever set loose the inspired potential that you already possess. You have the power to shed your ordinary skin. You have the power to turn flesh into hope, disconnection into union, and this moment into a balm to some section of humanity. You are holding back the floodgates of your own wild ride.

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Moving Forward Without Fear—The Easy Way

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(This is an excerpt from an article I just released in my e-newsletter. Want a copy? Get it here)

I am going to tell you about cleaning up my clutter, baby.

I’m really telling you the secret of making seven figures in the work you love. I’m telling you how to get to Bali. Or figure out who you are, now that you no longer fit in your skin. I’m telling you how to move on from the one whose name must never be mentioned, though you mention it way too much.
Really, this is about going past the ‘all or nothing’ syndrome and onto the easy track of having everything, well, eventually.

So…

My home office resembled a nice, homey, junkyard for years, accented with tasteful teal walls. I’d answer the phone acrobatically, thank God for yoga. I knew exactly where the slip of paper with the red dot was, though to others my desk looked like the remains of a parade, after the windstorm, tornado, and apocalypse. I am a lover of potential. Others say, a clutter freak. But we’re splitting hairs.

For years, I swore I’d sift, sort, and jump into current time.  One Friday night, armed with meditation and gospel music, I finally decided to tackle a fat pile and the contents of a desk drawer. I dumped everything on the floor. It looked like a whale or planet had thrown up. The debris was CD covers, half started articles, a ring I meant to fix, scraps of images for art projects, bank statements and disintegrated “important” phone numbers. I was doing fine, until I had the thought, “this is going to take so much longer than I thought.”

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Anything Can Work Out Right Now (Unless You’re Not in the Now)

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(This is an excerpt from an article I just released in my e-newsletter. Want a copy? Get it here)

Are you ready to discover your calling? Or become a household name? Or meet the love of your life? Then rip up your scorecard, baby. Sit at the doorstep of Creative Possibility. Step into this uncorrupted moment, and allow your years, disappointments, and opinions to disappear. Call it Zen. Amnesia. Surrender. The Zone. Whatever lingo works for you. Because as a career and an inspired success coach, I know this breakthrough strategy works. It’s this: I have the willingness to allow things to work out, even if they haven’t worked out before. 

Let’s face it. The eager run through open fields and meet new opportunities. The beleaguered trip on daisies. They call it “experience.”

Recently I coached Julie, a psychotherapist who had three hot new prospects call her in the past week. I felt excited for her. But I noticed Julie’s tone was as flat as my kitchen table, well, as flat as my kitchen table is, underneath a small mountain range of piles. She could have been telling me about historic weather patterns in downtown San Diego.

“Yeah I’ve seen this before. There’s a little spike of interest and then it dies down,” she said. Suddenly I felt my interest die down, plummet actually. I swear I could feel the stars in the evening sky recede. Her tone, momentarily, turned my enthusiasm into a shade of shame. It was as though the adult had stormed into the room and told us to stop jumping up and down on the bed.

Of course Julie had her reasons for staying cautious and a bit deflated. She’d had “experience.” I envisioned attorneys wheeling in their case files and documents, exhibits and evidence. Her reasons took up a great deal of room in her heart and in our call.  

“You know, this time doesn’t have to be like the past,” I said softly. “Yeah, I don’t want to get my hopes up,” she remarked. “I’ve been down that road.”

And that’s when I knew we stood at the threshold of change— or in quicksand.  Julie was no longer in present time. There was no future available to her. She was on a “road.” Only what had happened in the past could happen again. And the more she guarded her heart, the more robotic she became. I sure wouldn’t sign up for psychotherapy with her.

I wanted her to get those clients. I wanted her to surprise herself. I wanted her to feel a dream come true and then another one and another one. I wanted her to be free. And most of all, I wanted her to show up for her current life with love. I wanted her to meet her life now and have her real life meet her back with the stunning generosity I knew was available.

 

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Being Grateful for Yourself, Your Unusual Life, and Your Courage—A Thanksgiving Power Practice

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(This is an excerpt from an article I just released in my e-newsletter. Want a copy? Get it here)

Some of you may be celebrating this Thanksgiving with hugs, easy conversation, turkey and pumpkin pie. Yet some of you may feel stranded, like the marble that rolled away from the group, stuck with the dust bunnies in outer space or abandoned under the buffet. And some of you may feel stranded in broad daylight, surrounded by people, feeling invisible, or worse yet, as visible and broken as a car wreck on the side of the road, strangers gathering to gawk at the shattered glass.

For many, the holidays can bring up discomfort.

They can be some weird checkpoint in life–where you find yourself comparing your entire life to the fantasies you have in your head of how your cousin, neighbor, or sister-in-law is pulling it off. Let me tell you something, no one is pulling this off. No one is spared challenge or confusion in this life. Everyone, consciously or not, is seeking to find peace, comfort and communion with their own soul.

Anyway, I don't know about you, but in holidays past, I've had the feeling of standing in some bad, funky, psychodrama, and feeling as though my head is a big pink balloon floating away from my neck and onto the ceiling.  And that's before I touched the alcohol.

There are those easy breezy questions people ask, stuffing celery sticks and chips into their mouth. "So what are you doing these days?" they ask.

And you stand there paralyzed, thinking to yourself, "Well, if I knew what I was doing, do you really think I'd have 200 self-help books, a peak performance coach, a therapist, a Vedic astrologer, and a medium?" Sometimes, I find myself itching to answer these questions with, "Could you be more specific?  When you say, what are you doing these days, do you mean on the astral planes or do you mean in physical time?" Of course if you luck out, some celebrity may have died recently and you can pick apart their lives and spare your own.

So whatever your holiday experience might be, this Thanksgiving Day, I'm inviting you to my table. It's a table of soul, and it's big. It includes all of us, even those of you around the world, who don't celebrate this tradition. And wherever you are, you can practice being at our table.

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Action Steps Anyone?  Grab a journal and write down what you are grateful for and do tell me and our tribe one thing (or ten thousand!) you are grateful for about yourself or your journey this year. You can post it in the comment section of this blog post.

 

Is There a Safe Road in Today’s Job Market? Oh Yes, and It’s Not What You Think

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Resumes don’t make you safe. Credentials don’t make you safe. Only passion is your ticket to stability. Everything in the world can change, except your true nature.

You were born to do what you were born to do.

Recently, I’ve been asked by media (including USA Today) and bloggers, across the country…in this tumultuous job climate and economy—as a national career expert—do I see any Safe Road?

Here’s how one blogger posed the question:

There comes a point for many people when they become exhausted and unfulfilled trying to follow the conventional path to success and disillusioned by the American Dream. It's practically an epidemic these days. Some peek around and decide they are too afraid of uncertainty and go back to sleep at the wheel. More and more people these days, however, find themselves overwhelmingly compelled to leave the safety and security of their current career and make a leap of faith to follow their true calling. You say in your book Inspired and Unstoppable: Wildly Succeeding in Your Life’s Work! that playing it safe is actually pretty dangerous. Is there such a thing as The Safe Road?

And my answer:

Oh yes there is! I teach all my clients that “In times of uncertainty, true passion is your greatest job security.” I don’t mean that you have to leave a job. But I do want you to follow a direction that thrills you or gives you the feeling of fitting into your own skin.  Think about it. The wealthiest people on the planet are those who pursued their passions, not the ones who denied them. (Oprah, Bill Gates, Richard Branson, movie stars, etc.)

Your true calling is endlessly sustainable and it gives you a distinctive edge. You have more love, stamina, resourcefulness and creativity when you utilize your talents.  You are also more willing to stretch and grow in arenas that move you.

When you do work you love, it gives you more confidence and energy. When you don’t do work you love, it depletes you in every area of your life. Think about it. If you’ve been this successful doing work you don’t love, what could you do with work you do love? Sure, you can will power your way through for a while at work you don’t love. But when you love something, you shine. It’s natural. You bring extra juice and exude charisma. 

There’s something more compelling here, too. The main point of my latest book Inspired & Unstoppable: Wildly Succeeding in Your Life’s Work! is that you are meant to succeed in the work you love. It’s almost inevitable. It’s your calling. It won’t let you go. You ache for this expression for a reason. It’s what you’re here to do. And there are doors that open for you that just wouldn’t open for you if you followed something else.

For me, when you do your dreams, you enter a relationship with the Divine. You lean into the Compelling, the Unfathomable Good, that which gives your life meaning and power in ways you can’t imagine. This is real security. This is better than any 401k and, believe me, your contributions are always matched. 

So yes, there is a Safe Road. It’s a wild ride. It’s a journey like none other. I hope more people get fed up with the insecurity of a traditional job market and discover the security of the opportunities and openings already waiting for them.   

 

©2012 Tama J. Kieves. All rights reserved

Tama Kieves has been featured on Oprah Radio, and is the bestselling author of This Time I Dance! Create the Work You Love and her latest book Inspired and Unstoppable: Wildly Succeeding at Your Life’s Work.  She is a sought-after speaker and career coach who has helped thousands worldwide discover and live their true work in the world.  Sign up at www.TamaKieves.com to receive the free monthly email newsletter with Tama’s latest articles (and events).

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Finding Faith When You’re Freaking Out: You Couldn’t Be More Loved

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(This is an excerpt from an article I just released in my e-newsletter. Want a copy? Get it here)

When it comes to creating the work you love, it's all about learning to cultivate faith. I'd say having faith in your journey is more important than brushing your teeth. Then again, I do much of my work on the phone. "But how do I have faith when things don't work out?" my clients ask. "Where does Spirit go, when I'm freaking out?" I have a gazillion answers. But this month I want to tell you about a miracle I had years ago. I'm hoping it will nourish you and help you become the unstoppable agent of love that you are meant to be.

Years ago, I facilitated a workshop at a women's retreat held at an eco-resort in the breathtaking Mayan Riviera, in Mexico. I remember the moment I arrived. I stared at this remote beach of glittering aqua blue water and untouched white sand. I began to cry. The beauty stung me. It rattled me and stilled me. My travel sweat evaporated. I felt naked and robed at the same time, emptied and filled. And most of all, I felt very, very loved. I felt loved in that moment, loved in the past, and loved for all time—because that’s the nature of real love.

Before arriving, I'd had a week that had challenged my confidence and faith ten ways till Sunday. I felt weary inside, tired of giving myself constant pep talks just to function. Surely, other people know how to get through a day without questioning their entire existence, and, on top of that, wondering what really could have been, if only they had caught that 48 hour sale at Macy’s.

But standing in that hypnotic, warm water, recognizing that my inner voice had brought me here, I remember feeling, "I am always cared for." It just suddenly seemed logical. And then it was global and universal, too. I could not be this loved in this moment and forgotten in the next. The nature of this love was all encompassing. I realized, then, a truth that changed my life: Sacred love is consistent.

See, the Universe isn't like a rotten boyfriend who loses interest in you if, say, you gain some extra pounds or chins. Spirit never forgets your birthday or any day in which you exist. The love of the Universe is not fickle, narcissistic or dependent on you counting the exact right number of mala beads. 

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Action Steps Anyone?  What can you do to deepen your walk of listening to yourself and nurturing yourself in this lifetime? Where are you being called to trust yourself? Have you read This Time I Dance! Creating the Work You Love and also Inspired & Unstoppable: Wildly Succeeding in Your Life’s Work!  Both, while talking about creating the work you love, are really about this Great Adventure of trusting an inner voice—and feeling beloved, over and over again, despite  self-doubts .

Grab a journal or write your answers on the blackboard of your heart: (or post on the blog here)

Would love to hear anything/everything from you, dear one, on this blog or Facebook.  

Career Transition: It Takes an Intermission to Find Your Mission

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Are you tired of work that doesn’t match your soul– or the breadth of your talent?

Well, I want you to seize a turquoise bolt of lightning. But you can’t reach it, while you hang out in your “swamp.” It takes an intermission to find a mission.

It’s easy to get discouraged as you listen to the recycled conversations at work. It’s easy to think that you have “too many passions” to find your calling– or that you could never sell your pottery on an international level. But these beliefs are as real as lime green monsters slobbering in your closet.

Did you know that everything that currently “freaks you out”—could melt in minutes in the presence of your joy? Your creative mind has insights your linear mind does not. Changing your life is not a head thing. It’s a heart, soul, vibration, shaman, shift kind of thing. It’s about tasting your Real Life again—or for the singular first time. It’s awakening to the brilliant self you have forgotten.

Albert Einstein said, “You can’t solve a problem at the level of the problem.” You have to experience something else. So that’s my assignment to you. Forget your repetitive fears. Can you allow yourself to have a soul-adventure that raises you above and beyond every one of your problems? Is that a day of playing with your camera or taking a workshop in chanting in the moonlight? Taste your untainted magnificent self. That self knows another life. Begin again.

I know you will find the exact open door that you need. But just in case you’re looking for a next right opportunity to experience your singular way of stirring up the work you’re meant to do and staying wildly inspired, I have to tell you that’s what I’ll be covering with a tribe (your tribe) of intentional, creative, smart and fun individuals at the Omega Institute (a paradise of trails, yoga, spa services) in upstate New York on August 16-18th for my once a year Unleash Your Calling: Create the Work & Life You Love retreat. This weekend is designed to help you let go of fears and follow what’s calling you right now. You may want to uncover your true purpose or you may want to finally take your dreams to their greatest heights and rock the world. My mission is to assist you in having a breakthrough experience. Because I know you have unparalleled work to do in this world.

Can’t make Omega? Consider joining me for this training at the Esalen Institute in Big Sur, California on Sept 27-29th. Or on Oct 14-18 at the Kripalu Center for Yoga & Health during peak fall foliage in the Berkshires. Just tell them Einstein sent you. I’ll be waiting for you with open arms.

I believe in you. I believe you are guided and supported in every aspect of your life. I know you will have your right breakthrough experience. Your gifts are too potent to stay dormant or stunted for long.

With my love and blessings,

Tama

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Inspired & Unstoppable Success Story: Dr. Lissa Rankin, author of Mind Over Medicine

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My mission is to help others live their fullest mission on the planet.  And one of the things I love most about my career is witnessing how other inspired-career-transition-ers and mojo-warriors fly. (And, of course, I can’t help but feel especially proud when they’re beloved clients and fans of my books.)

I hope you’ll enjoy my amazing interview with Dr. Lissa Rankin—who found the guts to leave behind a medical practice to do what she loved.  Today, she’s a New York Times best-selling author of Mind Over Medicine, a pioneer for a new kind of health care, and a woman on fire.  Catch the Passion Here.